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Just Naked People Doing Naked People Things

April 30, 2006

I recently visited a few web sites that spoke of the deterioration of the family structure and the rise of the porn industry. According to the Family Safe Media site, the porn industry makes over $57 billion a year, worldwide, and $12 billion in the United States. It also said that porn revenue is larger than all combined revenues of all professional football, baseball, and basketball franchises. US porn earnings even far outweigh that of ABC, CBS, and NBC combined! And to top it all off, child pornography generates $3 billion annually. The billions of dollars didn’t surprise me, although that is quite a large sum of money if you ask me. What did surprise me, even though some of it was discussed in lecture, was the statistics having to do with children/teenagers and women and internet pornography.

Children in the 12-17 age group are the largest consumers of internet pornography. And all this time I thought it was dirty old men and horny college students who filled this group. Also, 80% of 15-17 year olds have had multiple hard-core exposures, most of the time while doing homework on the computer. Well, I guess I can understand when the temptation is there and you have a headache from doing so much homework, why not just tap into some free internet porn. I have the best of both worlds: My homework is the porn, so I guess it’s more like killing two birds with one stone, actually.

When it comes to women, 13% admit to accessing pornography at work. Most women keep their cyber activities a secret and 17% of women even struggle with pornography addiction. Wow, porn addiction. I guess it could be worse, though, like being addicted to crack, or smack, or even the reefer (I prefer ‘the marijuana’ personally, and by this I mean I prefer to call it ‘the marijuana.’ I was not suggesting that I partake in the smoking of or ingesting of ‘the marijuana,’ except of course for medicinal purposes…I got the glaucoma.). Wow, I really get overwhelmed by my A.D.D. sometimes.

In summation: I am not too shocked about the billions of dollars in revenue that the porn industry makes each year; I am quite shocked by the amount of young kids are getting into porn, harcore I might add (I checked out porn when I was their age too, though); I am pretty shocked by women and their high %’s with porn (although, men are still much worse); and I definitely get sidetracked very easily, especially when it involves naked people doing naked people things together (shhhhhh…like having sex) Ok my blogging is done, for now.


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Seeing is Believing

April 27, 2006

I read a few blogs that asked the question of whether or not porn, showing fake (edited afterwards) scenes of child pornography or snuff should be treated the same as actual films of this nature. I would have to say, yes, they should be treated the same. If it looks real then it may seems to many people to be real. This would be the same thing as making the real thing, except for the fact that a child or individual was not really used or harmed in the making. In these films, it may really be a young person with a body of a child added in post production via computer technology. And as for a snuff film, it is as easy to fake and act out a murder just like in any other movie.

I am sure there are laws against this "fake" illegal porn, but I am sure it still goes on. Maybe the creators of these movies are trying to appeal to the sick minds of the many people out there who are willing to pay money movies involving children. Maybe they are trying to make a joke. Either way, it is in poor taste and these violators should be punished to the full extent of the law.

My feelings…in a nutshell.

April 22, 2006

Just recently I finished a research paper on the Media Equation theory, which basically states that Media = Real Life. This means that people treat media devices, like television sets, pictures, and computers, as if they were "real" and thus form a sort of bond, much like that between 2 people. I know that my computer is just a bunch of wires and circuits and plastics and stuff, but I get so frustrated with it on a daily basis that I actually find myself yelling at it and threatening to strangle it when it doesn’t work properly. It seems that every time I need my computer to work, especially for something important, it fails to do so. Like today, I have spent the last 45 minutes trying to fix a blog I previously posted because the font got all crazy for some reason. Of course, no matter what I do, even after I fix it, the mistakes just seems to stay half corrected, and thus driving me insane.

As you all know, I use WordPress for my blogging. I have never blogged before or had the desire to blog ever, but my online/distance class requires it for participation. Blogging sounds like a fine idea, but there is always an issue each and every time I have to blog. I don’t look forward to blogging, either. I try so hard to get online as much as I can, but my lack of transportation and online access (my own fault and problem I know) kind of throws a monkey wrench in my plans to be a good blogging student this semester. This is my second time taking Cyberporn and Society, since I just stopped going to school last spring semester and, thus, received a grade of an "F." So, my plan was to change the "F" to something else, obviously. Even though I don’t blog as much as the rest you (my classmates), I try to make each and every blog worthwhile and I spend a lot of time doing so. When I get something done, I like to do it right and not half-ass. And yes, I do procrastinate, as do most of us I’m sure (or maybe I’m alone here).

Ok, so the point of this blog is not to rant about an issue dealing with sex or pornography, but rather to convey my feelings on blogging, this class, and the day I am having (though I will probably rant a little bit). What’s wrong with that? Most blogs I have read this semester have just been people ranting and raving anyways, poorly, I might add (I am referring to blogs in general, not just in my class). But I guess that is what blogs are for. A lot of people don’t even really put effort into what they are writing either it seems,. And if I have offended anyone (classmates or Professor Halavais) just know that it is not my intention to do so.

I really do like the lectures, though, and I think that Professor Halavais is the most down to earth professor I have ever had. He even stuck up for me when a student in my class kept commenting on my blog and emailing me that I had a lot of nerve to say that it’s NOT ok for Big Brother (a.k.a. the Federal Government) to monitor ALL and any of our Google searches and online travels. I just let the comment go at first, but the student, and I won’t mention her blog name, wrote me a comment that basically said that she was willing to give up ANY and ALL freedoms (as stated in the Constitution that was written by the forefathers of this country) to make our country a safer place. She also told me that "I" was the fool and that the security of our homeland was of utmost importance (even more important than our personal freedom). I simply responded to her attacks with a quote from Benjamin Franklin (one of our founding forefathers): "Any person who is willing to give up freedom for security deserves neither". Her response: more attacks, via email this time. She told me that the world of today is nothing like the world Benjamin Franklin lived in, and that the world of today is much more dangerous than it ever has been. Then, she basically told me I was a liberal scumbag and that I should "open up my eyes." Sort of ironic, don’t you think, that she is the one telling me to open my eyes.

On a lighter note, the blogs I have written this semester have really made me think about the topics and controversies discussed in the lectures. Actually, I feel as though I have become a better writer lately, and I owe a lot of that to my blogging. Never before have I been able to properly express myself through writing. Something just kind of clicked this semester. Maybe some of it has to do with the fact that I am now 26 years old and that I have been an avid writer (song writer with lyrics and poetry) since highschool. Whatever it is, I think I owe some of my development (perhaps my turning point) to my Cyberporn and Society class. So, do I think I will get an "A" in this class? No, probably not, and that’s ok. Will I have learned something here to carry with me the rest of my life? Definitely. Nickpanic out.

Straight, Gay, Bi, ….We’re All the Same, Right?!

April 19, 2006
Michael Lucas has quite an interesting blog.  His stance on gay pornography is not at all surprising to me either.  Mr. Lucas believes that gay pornography is important for the gay community, even though it is frowned upon by the mainstream.  I assume this is for the same reason that straight/heterosexual pornography is important for the heterosexual community.  Gay porn to gay/lesbian individuals is just the same as straight porn to heterosexual individuals.  Therefore, it makes sense that porn be just as important to gay people as it is for straight people. 
I read a few blogs from students in my class and they seemed to consider gay pornography as something not accepted by mainstream society.  But, heterosexual pornography is not really accepted by the mainstream either.  Pornography, in general, is still sort of (and probably will always be) taboo to an extent.  In the world of pornography, all types of porn, whether it be straight, gay, bi, fetish, hardcore, softcore, or whatever are all kind of put into the same category as being porn, just different levels you could say. 
On one blog from my class, a student asked the question to Mr. Lucas if he believes there are any negative aspects of gay porn?  I will answer for Mr. Lucas.  Of course there are negative aspects with gay porn, just like there are with straight porn!  When discussing a topic as controversial as pornography, there are always positives and negatives.  There are, I’m sure, just as many bad things going on in the gay porn industry as there are in the rest of the porn industry.  There is probably gay kiddie porn, gay hardcore (as I like to say hardGore), and most definitely gay sex scenes made against people’s will (rape, abuse, etc.). 
Perhaps gay porn could also give people (both heterosexual and homosexual) the wrong idea about the intimacy between gay couples.  Then again, heterosexual porn does basically the same thing, so it really is a toss up.  If I could ask Mr. Lucas a question I guess it would be: “Do you think this country is more accepting of gay and lesbian relationships today, or do you see continued prejudice against a person’s choice to take part in a gay/lesbian lifestyle?”  Sort of a long-winded question, but I guess I am looking more for of a response based on personal experience and not on what we all see and hear about in the media.  I am a 26-year-old heterosexual male, without judgment or prejudice on anyone, but even though the media makes homosexuality out to more widely accepted, I know that not to be true.  It is kind of ironic that our country, the United States of America, the most diversified country in the world, seems to one of the most prejudice ones as well.  Will we ever learn.

And Now…the Truth

April 17, 2006

   I happened to read an article the other day on a study about sex, adolescents, and the media and it made me sort of laugh to myself. An individual wrote a comment about the article which sort of made me realize again how ridiculous the mass media is today. The Media has so much power and we are all ok with that. Actually, more power than the President some would say. The main purpose of my blog, though, is to state the fact that the Media has the power to influence everything we do and believe, but we also have the power to think for ourselves.

   The main premise of the article I read was about a study conducted on 12 – 14 year-old adolescents over a few years. The study, after keeping close watch over what these adolescents did (what they watched, music they listened to, activities they did, etc.) during the next 2 years, came to the conclusion that media affects the desire for intercourse and pre-mature sexual development in adolescents (Conlon, 2006). So, apparently the media is responsible for the development of the natural, sexual drive in adolescents. I think not. It seems quite impossible to conduct a study of this sort, being a bit of a researcher myself (acquiring degrees in both psychology and communication), since it involves such a broad, controversial issue (sex in the media) as well as a pool of subjects (early adolescents) that naturally tend to approach the conclusion anyways. Adolescents have always, since the dawn of time, become sexually involved in one way or another during their early adolescent years. The only difference is that sex has many more channels and ways to get to children at an earlier age via technological advances within the last hundred years or so. Children and adolescents, though, whether they are exposed to sex or not, still follow their natural urges. For example, if an 8-year-old sees a sexual scene on television (kissing or heavy petting), they might question it, but I don’t think it makes sense to conclude that they will want to necessarily change their natural behavior and want to become sexually active before their body is ready for it. Adolescents are ready for sex! It’s all part of their development into adult human beings. They don’t need the Media to tell them they’re ready, and for the rest of us…we don’t need the Media to tell us who we are and how we should act. 100 Years of technology and sex in the Mass Media cannot change what millions of years of evolution has programmed us to do.


Sexy Media a Siren Call to Promiscuity

Article By Michael Conlon

CHICAGO (Reuters)

© Reuters 2006. All Rights Reserved.

Are You Talkin’ to Me?

March 28, 2006

I am never amazed with what I find out when I start surfing the web. Most of my surfing online involves Google searching for my Cyberporn and Society class, checking on my Myspace account, and watching items on ebay. Ebay is a good place to start.

When I was messing around on ebay a few days ago I happen to find pictures of people for sale, semi-nude pictures for that. One I particularly remember was a young girl sitting on a toilet. The title of this picture for auction was something along the lines of "Me going Wee-Wee" and it had like twenty bids on it. I have even seen a lot more auctioning of "used" panties and bras that also seem to sell quite well. Sounds like a pretty lucrative business if you ask me. Maybe I will find a picture of an attractive girl and then just buy cheap new bras or used bras (from a Thrift store maybe) and say they were worn by her. Think about it, you could make a killing! I might just try it out. Who knows, maybe half of the time the "worn" panties/bras are being auctioned by a guy with the same idea as me! Either way, though, at least you are still getting a woman’s bra/panties, whether they were worn or not. At least you didn’t spend $12,000 on a grilled cheese sandwich that supposedly had the face of the Virgin Mary on it!

As far as my Myspace account is concerned, I am always getting some weird invitations from too-good-to-be-true people asking to be my "friend" in the Myspace world. I mean come on, every person who does this is a beautiful 5'6, blonde-haired, blue-eyed supermodel just trying to find a nice guy…on Myspace. Sorry, not in this world. Not saying that I am no catch or that my profile is lacking in excitement, but what are the odds of all of these supermodel-like-women finding me, then writing me a three-paragraph message, and then telling me to email back to start a relationship?! I even get some supposed women propositioning me and asking to meet outside in the "real world." Now maybe some of these are true (there are a lot of freaks and nymphos out there on the web), but most of the time I kind of chuckle and just wonder how many people take them up on their offers. I feel sorry for the naive general public. Oh well, they will all learn sooner or later.

March 28, 2006

Can I Watch My Porn Lectures Here?!

March 28, 2006

I have read several posts about students taking this distance class trying to explain this course to others. I must admit that it really didn’t occur to me how strange this course must sound to other people. Most of my friends were telling me it was so awesome that I get to look at porn all the time and get graded for it. My family thought it was a bit odd at first but, if the University of Buffalo says it’s acceptable, then it must be, right?

At the beginning of this semester I ran into a bit of trouble trying to find a good spot to watch this course’s lectures where I could have a bit of privacy. I mean privacy from what I was going to view in the lectures, not the other thing you were thinking of. Since I don’t have a good, solid wireless connection at my apartment in Buffalo, I thought maybe I would go elsewhere to get online. First, I started going to a local coffee shop that offers free wireless to customers. After a few lectures, though, I decided the coffee shop was a bit too public for this type of thing. Even though I was very cautious about who could see my computer (I sat at a table in the back), I still would have my hand on the mouse, which was ready to minimize the lecture slides when porn was shown on the screen. People were constantly walking by my computer the whole time and I didn’t want to get kicked out or offend anyone, so I decided to try another venue: the Eastern Hills Mall food court!

Free wireless was all I needed to hear and I was there, at the food court of the Eastern Hills Mall. Once again, though, there wasn’t a private place anywhere, not to mention that the wireless there had such a small bandwidth that I had the slowest connection speed possible I think. So, I finally gave in, got my UB parking permit/pass and started going to school to watch the lectures and post on my blog (I didn’t need parking permit prior because I only take night classes). Now I just find a quiet spot at school and get my work done there.

Getting back onto the original topic, it is funny trying to explain this class to other people. People who don’t know me so well think I’m making the whole thing up and if I’m not then they want to sign up for the class. I really do like this class, both for the material we are covering (and uncovering haha!) as well as the fact that it’s a distance class. Trying not to offend other people and attempting not to look like a total pervert in public has also been quite a charade as I stated earlier. I am kind of sick of explaining this class to people because they just are so excited thinking that I get to watch porn all of the time. So, from now on, when someone asks me what a class on pornography teaches, I simply say to them "everything you ever wanted to know about the subject."

Sex Does Sell!

March 23, 2006

   In response to “Deanna’s” blog, I totally agree that sex is everywhere these days. I get pop-ups and especially emails on a daily basis asking me if I want to buy the latest Viagra knock-off or if I would like to “enhance” myself. Those are the two I get most of the time on top of all the invites to porn sites I receive.

   I have never seen the “naked news”(besides in the lecture) but, I have heard about it in other countries. Actually, I was an exchange student in Spain my first year of college during which time I stayed with the aunt and cousins of Daisy Fuentes. Yes, I am talking about the MTV VJ from the 90s, but that is beside the point. During my month stay there I found some interesting things out about how Spain and, a lot of the rest of the world, views sex. Sex was everywhere! They even showed pornographic movies on regular television, at any time during the day! There is very little regulating going on to what is being shown on television there. When I asked the reason why it was accepted to show all of this on television I was told “Europeans are more comfortable with sex and that sex isn’t something that should necessarily be thought of as taboo.”

   “Deanna” said that she thinks we are all becoming more comfortable with sex and thus making it ok to take it further and further I agree that we are, as a country, much more accepting of sex today, but the media is really just making us that way. The majority of things we see on television (commercials, movies, sitcoms, etc.) involve the topic of sex, both in words and actions, much of the time. Maybe the media keep “kicking it up a notch” because they want to push the boundaries and make a commercial that really shocks us or a movie that is so appalling that it is actually good. Maybe the fact that we are becoming more and more desensitized has influenced the media to either: a. make media more sexual in order to keep up with an ever-changing, more sexual audience, or b. make media more sexual because it is a basic human desire that can help influence the decisions we make as consumers in what we do with our time and money. Whether we like it or not, sex is going to continue to be a big part of the media and our lives because it’s like they always say: sex does sell.

Making or Breaking the Habit: Porn Addictions

March 19, 2006

It seems that everybody has their vices nowadays. Sometimes these “vices” get in the way of normal everyday life, and they are then generally referred to as “addictions.” We always hear about people being addicted to things like alcohol and drugs, but people can get addicted to just about anything, like pornography, for instance. Pornography can be just as addicting or more addicting than that of alcohol or other substances.

People becoming addicted to pornography seems to be on the rise within the last decade, maybe due to the increased accessibility to pornography via the internet. You can see just about anything you can possibly think of from the comfort of your own home. Pornography can become such a strong addiction probably because it makes people feel good and gives them comfort, as alcohol and drugs do. It is also in our nature to be drawn towards sexual behavior generally anyways, it’s just stronger with others sometimes. Like a drug, being without or being denied pornography can cause discomfort and “pain” for these persons with the addiction and they may experience withdrawal symptoms. Both personal and social relationships can be hurt by this addiction as well.

Why do people get addicted to begin with? Addictions may be genetic or they may be learned, or a little bit of both, nobody is really sure. But one thing for sure, if a person is addicted to one thing or has had a history of addictions, then becoming addicted to one thing (porn or alcohol, for example) may be just as easy as becoming addicted to another. Some people just have an addictive personality, or so to speak. Mental addictions can be just as strong or stronger than physical addictions. Pornography is a little bit of both in that it is physically and mentally gratifying.

Trying to overcome any addiction takes the support of others and the willingness to admit that one has an addiction. There are a variety of websites and books out there that can lead addicts in the right direction. I quit smoking this past February so I know first hand how difficult it to break a habit. At first it may seem impossible and, a bit painful, but if you just stick it out it will be worth it, in my opinion. I refer to the drug/addiction relationship like so: drug(pornography) = romance; addiction = relationship; The only real way to end a romance one has started is to really want the relationship to end.